By Leonard Kamugisha AKIDA
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Apparently, while I sat home and tuned on my radio set to listen to cool jamz to relieve my quarantine Stay Home stress, one of the listeners called in seeking for marital helps.
This Nigga gave narratives on his intimacy with Quinton and how the two came to have a Christian matrimony even though he knew his pretty soul was a kinda who sleeps around with different me.
He hoped Quinton’s behaviors would change overtime when she’s introduced to a Christian life. Nevertheless, the matrimony seemed giving her greeneries to hang around with different men in AC cars than settling to build her matrimony house.
As other listeners called in to advise this Nigger, I then remembered of Ty Tashiro’s book in my Home Library shelves: “The Science of Happily Ever After,” on perception of marriage.
In his book, Ty Tashiro reminds lovers to be analytical and romantic about whom to marry. He emphasizes on traits rather than trimness as the basic feature to pay attention to.
Ty Tashiro wrote: “You want to marry someone who scores high in ”agreeableness” someone who has a high concern for social harmony, who is good at empathy, who is nice. You want to avoid people who score high in neuroticism – who are emotionally unstable or prone to anger. Don’t think Negative traits will change over time.”
He further cautions that they (negative traits) are constant across a llifetime.
Paying less attention to social behaviors is the biggest mistake man can ever do in any relationship and the results are always regrettable.
Age, background, singleness are always attached to negative traits with hopes that one would surely change as they grow or adopt to new environments.
All these are the stereotypes sorrounding making choices in marriage. The success of marriage depends on how well any feature is considerably taken. Positive traits is the fundamental.
While marriage is considered a lifelong partnership, positive behaviors is foundation stone stone on which MIT’s firmly built.
Sins of commissions are as deadly as sins of omissions, so does minor and major negative traits. When choosing a partner, critically pay attention to his/ her traits.
Do not focus on irrelevant factors like looks. Beauty fades away but behavior stays longer.
While you pay attention to traits, keep in minds that platonic friends and other family members play an important role in the success or failure of marital relationship.
Therefore, do not filter out or rationalize away negative information about a partner or relationship
