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Four sex secrets you didn’t know about men.
By Leonard Akida.
The greatest mysteries of the world, besides Stonehenge and pyramids, is “What do men want
sexually?”
Seriously, what do they wan? Almost every woman ask this question because they hear so
many conflicting reports on what men supposedly want. Some people claim that men are
pigs, or dogs, and just want sex all the time. That they would probably dump a woman after
sex and move onto another conquest ASAP. That’s just the way a man’s mind words, or so
they claim.
But is that really true? What about those nice guys, those gentlemen and those single dads
that seem so sweet? Are they all really raging sex machines that just want more sex and
more women?
Realistically, there are similarities in what women want and what men want? Men, like
women, want to fall in love and wants an emotional connection.
No matter what guy you talk to, even though most free-loving player in the world, he will
admit that what he wants most is an emotional connection. Sex is temporary. Sex without
love, without emotional connection , feels empty.
Men want BETTER sex, more intense and out-of-this-world sex, but not necessarily more of
it. They may date lots of women and go looking for that one amazing lover, but realistically
these guys are only going to meet a handful of women that they really like.
So, do not contain or limit his drive for sex. Don’t shame him for it, don’t try to guilt him
into controlling his sex drive. Instead, be a superior lover. Go beyond “average”. Be a
full-filler of fantasies.
Here are four sex secrets about men that you’ve probably never heard before, but that are
worth sharing and remembering…
1. A man wants you to be aggressive in bed.
If you’ve ever been told that men don’t like bossy women, mean women, perverted women or selfish
women in the real world…well, okay but we’re NOT talking about the bedroom, are we? In the
bedroom anything goes. In fact, your man actually WANTS you to be horny, insatiable, unreasonable
and just insane with lust.
He wants you to take the lead in showing him how to please you. He wants you to be proud of your kink
and OWN IT. He wants you to feel hot, out of control and do anything that feels good. He wants you to embrace your self-pleasure because frankly, he doesn’t KNOW what you like in bed until you tell him.
So whatever shyness you feel, or whatever worry you have about offending him, shocking him or
embarrassing him, I assure you, it’s only limiting your sex life. He wants you to be more into it.
He wants you to initiate sex more and not simply “be ready” whenever he wants it. Allow yourself to
embrace the role of a nymphomaniac and just enjoy that freedom, because that is what he wants.
2. A man wants you to use MORE of your body and touch more of his body.
More, more, more is a good rule to live by, at least when it comes to sexual touching. Men not only love
oral sex, hand job sex, and penetration —they also love touching. He likes touching your body (being
told where to touch) and he loves it when you touch him more, with your lips, your fingers, fingernails (lightly of course) and palms. He even loves the feeling of your hair tickling his belly, shoulders, arms and so on. “Grope him” during sex. Give attention to his butt, his back, his arms and behind his neck.
Embrace more touching as a form of foreplay. He may not like the word “foreplay”, or understand
what it means, but he loves receiving more of it.
3. He wants to feel manly…like he’s turning you on like no one else can.
At the heart of really good sex is what you do for his ego. That’s what really gets his emotions involved, when he feels in control, feels sexy, and feels like you’re responding to him. It’s not just a matter of being supportive—which includes not acting offended or “confused” when he’s dirty talking and loving you.
It’s also about anticipating how he wants you to react. He wants to think of you as his best partner, someone who understands him, is very turned on by him, and will grunt, groan and sigh every time he touches you. You don’t have to fake an orgasm but you definitely need to SHOW enthusiasm when having sex so that he can finish, thinking he’s a sex god.
4. A man wants good feedback on his looks, performance and technique.
Don’t believe the myths suggesting that men are selfish and just care about their own orgasm. Most
men today are considerate lovers and that means they want feedback about how their doing. First,
understand that a lot of guys are self-conscious about their body, particularly the ones who aren’t
models. (Most of the population!) Physical compliments will let him relax, let loose and enjoy the
experience.
Next, give him feedback on his “performance” which just means you dirty-talk him, you praise him,
you use words like “Oh God” and cheerleader talk like, “Keep going!”
Finally, DO give him tips on technique, just be sure to keep it positive. That means if you like what he’s doing encourage him to keep right on doing it at that pace. But if he’s doing something wrong, instead of correcting his technique, simply ask him to do what you want in a more positive and sexy way. He’s much more likely to volunteer help and be enthusiastic if you ask him to do something rather than explain what he’s doing wrong.
Remember these sex secrets and make the guy feel like a champ. Keep up the good work and he
will become addicted fast, as he realizes he has the BEST life ever when he’s with you!
